A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood …
Could someone please tell what book/author they keep quoting…just can't seem to hear it properly…thanks
GABOR 😮😮😮 words can’t describe my gratitude 🙏🏽 you are the most brilliant, compassionate truth teller elevating this world! THANK YOU for the monumental impact you are having on us. Wow 💜
This talk is a blessing. Gabor Mate, you just mirrored the emotional/psychological/physical story of my life with the most profound insight, clarity and compassion. More than words can tell. Deepest gratitude to Gabor Mate and Tami Simon. 🙏💕
This should be a podcast not a YouTube video
I have accused my partner of hanging onto his anger, and ruminating on the original minor incident that triggered it for years. Listening to this I realized I haven’t been able to let go of betrayals from my own past. I was waiting for apologies for years, apologies I knew would never come, yet I couldn’t put the betrayals behind me. I find it so incredibly difficult to forgive- part of me gets anxious at the thought of forgiving because it feels like my anger protects me, the way a wall would. Does anyone know how to get past this? Thank you. 🙏🏼
AS a person with autoimmune diseases, it’s true, I never got angry when I was young. Now I’m slowly getting angry, but it’s unhealthy anger. I see it now from Dr. Maté
Where did I go wrong in my life? Not knowing about Gabor Mate earlier.
Gabor you didnt mention the importance of a plant based diet for the cure or prevention of illness. You clearly havent read the thousands studies dating from 1947.
Great interviewer ! It's rare to be able to hear such profound and deep questioning from a really present interviewer. It is my first time on this channel and I am grateful to both of them. Thank you very much for that great moment of beautiful exchange and sharing. <3
In other words, the key to a healthy society is doing the opposite of everything promoted by the Trump Administration on every level.
profound talk
deep gratitude🙏
resonating deeply. stolen at birth, forced adopte and conditioned to feel at risk of abandonment unless subservient quiet good girl, did the wanted by life and death doctorring too. know the feeling of compensation
An earth angel 🙂 <3
❤🙏❤
root cause of diabetes? and how to heal it?
I suffered childhood ptsd. Now I'm 40 and have never had a real friend, and have never been in a romantic relationship. Please dear god, please, heal me of this suffering. Let all the damage of my childhood be unraveled and undone. And please bring to me true love and real friendships. thank you and amen.
You have a very soothing voice.
oh my gosh I wish she’d let him go on about his childhood!!
Seek out how you have your existance validated… 🤔😲👏❤
This man is amazing
He has provided me with the term mind archeologist..n thats wat i wud love to b for the rest of my life….n trying hard to b me wen ther s a hell lotta pressure to follow the norms of the society…n while all that crap listening to his words gives me hope,assurance that am on a good path❤️❤️❤️lotta work to do…may god bless him n all others who do all these work so that ppl like us cud get into the deep details
a date on this upload would be helpful.
Thank you for all the work you have done Dr. Maté and specially for this excellent interview.
He paints such a simplistic one dimensional picture and broad brushes everyone with it. life is so much more complex and nuanced than his simpleton rehashed theories. but he's very smart by making your problem so simple and black and white he can sell his equally one note song 'cures'. he's a cynical scam artist riffing off the victim culture of crybabies we live in.
There are billions of incidents, genetics, environmental circumstances, etc which influence us and we are constantly changing.
It's patiently absurd to even think that one sentence muttered to his mother created his whole personal psychology for life. he's such a narcissist.
If we were as fragile and helpless as he claims humans would not have survived extinction. Hello/
And mothers stop letting him beat you up and shame you while he talks about how bad shame is.
I read all these comments about people blaming their whole lives on their mothers. Such b.s. before very recently kids were treated like livestock for heaven's sake. People had them because they needed ranch hands. Thy had sex in front of their kids. Men beat mothers as part of normal life. Kids were beat. They were put to work in factories when thy were 6 or pimped out for sex when they were 10 all over the world. Childhood wasn't even invented until the Victorian age — just coincidentally when Freud hooked into the zeitgeist of people having the mental free time to sit around thinking about these matters for the first time in human history.
Queen Elizabeth, who is not a social outcast at all, never saw her kids. Was that IDEAL? Maybe since according to Gabor Mate just a random bad encounter between a mother and child can ruin their lives!!
This is modern marketing. He's making you sick and then promising to cure you.
I had a horrible upbringing AS SO MANY DID and I do suffer from that and it did set the course of a tough life repeating those patterns. So what? Luck of the draw. I could have been born in rural China and drowned in the river because I was female. So I devoted my whole life and every resource I could scrape together giving my own daughter a fairy tale childhood in every way. And my incredibly spoiled and indulged and cottled daughter blames me for whatever she doesn't like about herself, ANYWAY. And she's imperfect ANYWAY. Which is unacceptable to her and definitely MY FAULT in her eyes although no reasons are given. I could have fed her bread and water and sent her to public school and skipped the vacations and summer camps and saved my energy not being the brownie leader or the room parent or going on every field trip or spending twenty years catering to her every whim. Not to mention the four years of Ivy League college I paid for out of my middle class wages for which she thanked me on graduation day by saying "I wish I had gone to trade school". That's funny because you're sure dining off your Ivy League bona fides, missy!
So the motto of the story is before you criticize your mother and certainly before you blame your whole life on her — how about appreciating all she did for you? How about realizing that Gabor Mate is selling products — solutions for the problems he's giving you. When I grew up people had respect for parents and parenting — it's the hardest, most thankless job on the planet and it's done by mere mortals, no less. And, yes, mere mortals with their own headaches and health problems and financial and relationship strains. How about this idea — growing up in the real world is actually good for you and builds resilience and prepares you to make your own way in life? How about the idea that autoimmune diseases are genetic or environmntal in the food or water or air? How about understanding that look at this whiner Mate — obviously his tragic childhood and ruined life is what we would call a FIRST WORLD PROBLEM since he's a famous, rich, beloved public figure. Wow, Gabor's parents — hat's off to you!
Dr. Mateo is so right on, my friend is in his 40's has ADHD I had dinner with his family. I observed his mom correcting him by screaming at him in this eerie, screechy voice at that moment I saw my friend face turn beet red and he start shaking. Later, I told my friend that his mom screaming had him shaking and red faced, He goes. " I didn't know that happened?" I realized he was totally disconnected from the body, to survive the abuse from his childhood. His ADHD was a coping mechanism created by him to shield the self, from the trauma of mental, verbal and physical abuse from the mom. His siblings one had a nervous breakdown, one is an alcoholic, one rocks back and fourth, to self soothe while conversing. It's so sad. How different their lives would be if she just loved, comforted , cared and accepted them
Can we take a second to recognize how amazing the interviewer was. She was absolutely in control of the direction of conversation and asked amazing questions. She is one of the best I ever heard in my life!!!
What's the middle ground for a toddler expressing their anger? Is there one? I was raised with no allowance of expressing anger. I raised my girls with allowing of expressing that, with limitations, but not in my presence (go in your room and hit your pillow if you need, but no slamming of doors or breaking things), and some of my grandchildren are being raised with allowance of "throw a fit" and yell all you want. What is "healthy expression" of anger? Is it universal?
Dropping the burden of responsibility and creating healthier insights to activism
Depressive disease is always due to childhood trauma???
Lot of discussion about childhood events. We all r probably the victim of our childhoods. But what can we do about these past traumatic events,talk to therapist for a long time, and will this really resolve the psych problems of that person.???
Who know each other , will it improve the care or not ??
Can someone tell me why Gabor constantly talks politics????
I wish I didn't have to hear Tami talk.
Listening to this talk, I finally underrstand why have Lupus, why constantly beingcriticised for being angry willnot cure me from anger but wil make it worse and hae learnt what healthy anger is. I swear Gabor is takking about my life most of the time….
What a wonderful speaker and talk. Thank you both Gabor and interviewer Tami
IS NO ONE GOING TO MENTION HOW SIMILAR THE INTERVIEWER’S VOICE SOUNDS LIKE HAKH FROM NARUTO???
I didn't know dr mate was of Jewish decent. I wonder what his stance on infant circumcision is. I know of a Dutch study that showed that circumcised boys had double the rates of autism as intact boys. Id bet circumcision in the US is contributing greatly to the high rates of autism and adhd in boys. Circumcision is horribly traumatic. I mean, how awful to welcome a baby boy to the world by strapping him down and taking a knife to his penis.
I feel like I've been angry all my life. It's painful to be almost permanently angry. You want to let it go, but it won't let you go. I think it can even become addictive and becomes part of one's identity over time.
Id ask him please articulate better because it’s stressful trying to understand this dragged English thx
Nagyon szèpen köszönjük, Doktor Úr! 🙏🏻❤️
Could someone please tell what book/author they keep quoting…just can't seem to hear it properly…thanks
GABOR 😮😮😮 words can’t describe my gratitude 🙏🏽 you are the most brilliant, compassionate truth teller elevating this world! THANK YOU for the monumental impact you are having on us. Wow 💜
21:39 Healthy anger and emotional competency
This talk is a blessing. Gabor Mate, you just mirrored the emotional/psychological/physical story of my life with the most profound insight, clarity and compassion. More than words can tell. Deepest gratitude to Gabor Mate and Tami Simon. 🙏💕
This should be a podcast not a YouTube video
I have accused my partner of hanging onto his anger, and ruminating on the original minor incident that triggered it for years. Listening to this I realized I haven’t been able to let go of betrayals from my own past. I was waiting for apologies for years, apologies I knew would never come, yet I couldn’t put the betrayals behind me. I find it so incredibly difficult to forgive- part of me gets anxious at the thought of forgiving because it feels like my anger protects me, the way a wall would. Does anyone know how to get past this? Thank you. 🙏🏼
AS a person with autoimmune diseases, it’s true, I never got angry when I was young. Now I’m slowly getting angry, but it’s unhealthy anger. I see it now from Dr. Maté
Where did I go wrong in my life? Not knowing about Gabor Mate earlier.
Gabor you didnt mention the importance of a plant based diet for the cure or prevention of illness. You clearly havent read the thousands studies dating from 1947.
Great interviewer ! It's rare to be able to hear such profound and deep questioning from a really present interviewer. It is my first time on this channel and I am grateful to both of them. Thank you very much for that great moment of beautiful exchange and sharing. <3
In other words, the key to a healthy society is doing the opposite of everything promoted by the Trump Administration on every level.
profound talk
deep gratitude🙏
resonating deeply. stolen at birth, forced adopte and conditioned to feel at risk of abandonment unless subservient quiet good girl, did the wanted by life and death doctorring too. know the feeling of compensation
An earth angel 🙂 <3
❤🙏❤
root cause of diabetes? and how to heal it?
I suffered childhood ptsd.
Now I'm 40 and have never had a real friend,
and have never been in a romantic relationship.
Please dear god, please,
heal me of this suffering.
Let all the damage of my childhood
be unraveled and undone.
And please bring to me true love
and real friendships. thank you and amen.
You have a very soothing voice.
oh my gosh I wish she’d let him go on about his childhood!!
Seek out how you have your existance validated… 🤔😲👏❤
This man is amazing
He has provided me with the term mind archeologist..n thats wat i wud love to b for the rest of my life….n trying hard to b me wen ther s a hell lotta pressure to follow the norms of the society…n while all that crap listening to his words gives me hope,assurance that am on a good path❤️❤️❤️lotta work to do…may god bless him n all others who do all these work so that ppl like us cud get into the deep details
a date on this upload would be helpful.
Thank you for all the work you have done Dr. Maté and specially for this excellent interview.
He paints such a simplistic one dimensional picture and broad brushes everyone with it. life is so much more complex and nuanced than his simpleton rehashed theories. but he's very smart by making your problem so simple and black and white he can sell his equally one note song 'cures'. he's a cynical scam artist riffing off the victim culture of crybabies we live in.
There are billions of incidents, genetics, environmental circumstances, etc which influence us and we are constantly changing.
It's patiently absurd to even think that one sentence muttered to his mother created his whole personal psychology for life. he's such a narcissist.
If we were as fragile and helpless as he claims humans would not have survived extinction. Hello/
And mothers stop letting him beat you up and shame you while he talks about how bad shame is.
I read all these comments about people blaming their whole lives on their mothers. Such b.s. before very recently kids were treated like livestock for heaven's sake. People had them because they needed ranch hands. Thy had sex in front of their kids. Men beat mothers as part of normal life. Kids were beat. They were put to work in factories when thy were 6 or pimped out for sex when they were 10 all over the world. Childhood wasn't even invented until the Victorian age — just coincidentally when Freud hooked into the zeitgeist of people having the mental free time to sit around thinking about these matters for the first time in human history.
Queen Elizabeth, who is not a social outcast at all, never saw her kids. Was that IDEAL? Maybe since according to Gabor Mate just a random bad encounter between a mother and child can ruin their lives!!
This is modern marketing. He's making you sick and then promising to cure you.
I had a horrible upbringing AS SO MANY DID and I do suffer from that and it did set the course of a tough life repeating those patterns. So what? Luck of the draw. I could have been born in rural China and drowned in the river because I was female. So I devoted my whole life and every resource I could scrape together giving my own daughter a fairy tale childhood in every way. And my incredibly spoiled and indulged and cottled daughter blames me for whatever she doesn't like about herself, ANYWAY. And she's imperfect ANYWAY. Which is unacceptable to her and definitely MY FAULT in her eyes although no reasons are given. I could have fed her bread and water and sent her to public school and skipped the vacations and summer camps and saved my energy not being the brownie leader or the room parent or going on every field trip or spending twenty years catering to her every whim. Not to mention the four years of Ivy League college I paid for out of my middle class wages for which she thanked me on graduation day by saying "I wish I had gone to trade school". That's funny because you're sure dining off your Ivy League bona fides, missy!
So the motto of the story is before you criticize your mother and certainly before you blame your whole life on her — how about appreciating all she did for you? How about realizing that Gabor Mate is selling products — solutions for the problems he's giving you. When I grew up people had respect for parents and parenting — it's the hardest, most thankless job on the planet and it's done by mere mortals, no less. And, yes, mere mortals with their own headaches and health problems and financial and relationship strains. How about this idea — growing up in the real world is actually good for you and builds resilience and prepares you to make your own way in life? How about the idea that autoimmune diseases are genetic or environmntal in the food or water or air? How about understanding that look at this whiner Mate — obviously his tragic childhood and ruined life is what we would call a FIRST WORLD PROBLEM since he's a famous, rich, beloved public figure. Wow, Gabor's parents — hat's off to you!
Dr. Mateo is so right on, my friend is in his 40's has ADHD I had dinner with his family. I observed his mom correcting him by screaming at him in this eerie, screechy voice at that moment I saw my friend face turn beet red and he start shaking. Later, I told my friend that his mom screaming had him shaking and red faced, He goes. " I didn't know that happened?" I realized he was totally disconnected from the body, to survive the abuse from his childhood. His ADHD was a coping mechanism created by him to shield the self, from the trauma of mental, verbal and physical abuse from the mom. His siblings one had a nervous breakdown, one is an alcoholic, one rocks back and fourth, to self soothe while conversing. It's so sad. How different their lives would be if she just loved, comforted , cared and accepted them
Can we take a second to recognize how amazing the interviewer was. She was absolutely in control of the direction of conversation and asked amazing questions. She is one of the best I ever heard in my life!!!
What's the middle ground for a toddler expressing their anger? Is there one? I was raised with no allowance of expressing anger. I raised my girls with allowing of expressing that, with limitations, but not in my presence (go in your room and hit your pillow if you need, but no slamming of doors or breaking things), and some of my grandchildren are being raised with allowance of "throw a fit" and yell all you want. What is "healthy expression" of anger? Is it universal?
Dropping the burden of responsibility and creating healthier insights to activism
Depressive disease is always due to childhood trauma???
Lot of discussion about childhood events. We all r probably the victim of our childhoods. But what can we do about these past traumatic events,talk to therapist for a long time, and will this really resolve the psych problems of that person.???
Who know each other , will it improve the care or not ??
Can someone tell me why Gabor constantly talks politics????
I wish I didn't have to hear Tami talk.
Listening to this talk, I finally underrstand why have Lupus, why constantly beingcriticised for being angry willnot cure me from anger but wil make it worse and hae learnt what healthy anger is. I swear Gabor is takking about my life most of the time….
What a wonderful speaker and talk. Thank you both Gabor and interviewer Tami
IS NO ONE GOING TO MENTION HOW SIMILAR THE INTERVIEWER’S VOICE SOUNDS LIKE HAKH FROM NARUTO???
Start 2:40
I didn't know dr mate was of Jewish decent. I wonder what his stance on infant circumcision is. I know of a Dutch study that showed that circumcised boys had double the rates of autism as intact boys. Id bet circumcision in the US is contributing greatly to the high rates of autism and adhd in boys. Circumcision is horribly traumatic. I mean, how awful to welcome a baby boy to the world by strapping him down and taking a knife to his penis.
I feel like I've been angry all my life. It's painful to be almost permanently angry. You want to let it go, but it won't let you go. I think it can even become addictive and becomes part of one's identity over time.
Id ask him please articulate better because it’s stressful trying to understand this dragged English thx